Wedding Day Stress

It’s about attitude and emotions

Weddings can be stressful. On more then one occasion I’ve had a Bride, or more commonly, the Mother of the Bride, freak out during the planning process. When emotions, budgets, and bridesmaids are high, things can go wrong. I once had a bride rip out all the orange flowers from her bouquet, because they were “too orange”.  A bridesmaid get so stoned before her makeup, that I eventually had to skip the lip stick because she kept wiping it off while I was applying it because it “tickled.” My point is not to terrify you of all the things that could go wrong, but simply to enlighten you that something might go wrong! Fortunately, however it is typically only the Bride that is aware of “too orange” flowers, and the Bridesmaid did sober up by picture time. Watch any blooper show and you’ll surely find brides tripping, Dads passing out, or little ones having melt downs. These are all the things that bring character to a wedding. In a way, it makes it uniquely yours.

As a wedding guest and a professional, I have seen a variety of things go wrong. But one thing that always goes right, at the end of the day, you’re married. You’ve gotten to stand next to the person you love, and in front of family and friends promise to ride it out together. That’s what a wedding is all about. Not an over priced caviar tray that nobody touched, or an over zealous step mom showing off on the dance floor. It’s about celebrating your love. I think far too often in the InstaWorld with clever hashtags and picture perfect poses, some of the character in a wedding gets lost. Some of the best weddings aren’t perfect, but that doesn’t make them less special. Not every wedding gets a feature, or looks like a styled shoot. Real weddings have style, character, and drunk uncles.

The thing that separates, these potential disasters, is attitude. If it’s your wedding, and you decide let it ruin the day, it will. It’s a matter of choice and attitude. The Bride with “too orange” flowers, she had an overly emotional response. It wasn’t nearly about the flowers, as it was emotions. She needed something to release on, and unfortunately, the buds took the brunt of her stress. Ultimately, her friends helped clean up the bouquets and fill in the gaps left by her aggression. She calmed down and moved on to marry the man of her dreams, even with a “too orange” boutonnière.

If you set yourself above things going wrong, they surely will. But if you craft the right attitude about how or who will help you fix the wrong, you will be able to sit back and enjoy the day. Simply put, don’t sweat the small stuff! Cliche I know, but there’s a lot of truth in that statement. Take solace in knowing it never goes perfectly, but you’ll get by with a little help from your friends, even if they are stoned.




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